“Ayaw ko sana patulan, pero nakakainis ang mga tao.”
If you create content, express a dream, or simply share a lighthearted reflection on social media, you have likely encountered this exact scenario: you post something positive or aspirational, only for a random comment to drag in an entirely unrelated past project just to throw shade.
Recently, on my personal page, I shared a fun, aspirational thought: if given the chance to join Pinoy Big Brother, I would claim the moniker “Ang Strong Son ng Caloocan”—a nod to resilience, standing firm through life’s trials, and fighting through real-world battles.
Then came a snarky comment: “Kung strong kayo, bakit tinigil niyo na yung 90-Day Journey?”
It leaves you asking one simple question: Anong connect?
Dissecting this everyday online dynamic shows why people resort to false logic and how creators can protect their peace without getting derailed.
1. The Flaw of the False Equivalency (Moving the Goalposts)
In logic, what happened here is called a false equivalency: taking the word “strong” (used in the context of character, life resilience, and perseverance) and weaponizing it against a specific social media content series (a gym vlog).
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Strength is Not Defined by a Public Upload Schedule: Being resilient through grief, financial hurdles, career transitions, and daily survival has nothing to do with whether you choose to publish a daily fitness log online.
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Content Pivots Are Normal: Shifting priorities, restructuring time, or keeping workouts personal rather than broadcasted is a normal life adjustment—not a failure of character.
2. Why People Leave These Comments
Understanding the psychology behind unprovoked, snarky comments takes away their power:
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Looking for a Chink in the Armor: When someone sees you express confidence or ambition, their immediate instinct is to look for something to puncture that confidence.
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Projecting Boredom: Online hecklers rarely care about the content itself; they look for a reaction, an argument, or an opportunity to feel clever at someone else’s expense.
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Confusing Access with Entitlement: Because you share parts of your life publicly, some assume they have a right to audit your personal timeline, consistency, and decisions.
3. Three Rules for Guarding Your Creative Sanctuary
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Do Not Take Criticism from Someone You Wouldn’t Go to for Advice: If a commenter has never built anything, supported your growth, or understood your journey, their unsolicited snark carries zero weight.
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Refuse to Fight on Their Turf: When someone presents an absurd comparison (“kung strong ka, bakit…”), you do not owe them a defensive explanation. Explaining yourself validates their false premise.
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Use the “Hide, Delete, or Scroll” Button Without Guilt: Your digital space is your sanctuary. You have full permission to filter out bad-faith noise so you can focus on building meaningful stories and pursuing your goals.
True strength is not proving yourself to anonymous internet hecklers—it is having the discipline to stay focused on your lane, no matter who tries to distract you.
Have you ever experienced someone using unrelated arguments just to invalidate your hard work or dreams online? How do you handle unsolicited digital noise? Share your thoughts below!